This post is not so much about Nas and Kelis as much as it is about womanly wiles and what we’ll do to get and keep a man. Sometimes, it’s just keeping a man coming around that we’ll sacrifice pride, human dignity, health, money, sanity and progress and achievement for. Why is that?

I’ve lost alot of respect for “Men” in the past few years. I had some to spare because I’ve always had a Capricorn girl Daddy Issues thing going and I believed men are gods. So maybe respect is not the word here…reverence, perhaps?

At any rate, I don’t revere men anymore. I believed all my life, because I wasn’t soft and cuddly in the mind, that I thought like one. But then a man told me how dumb I was and how much unalike we were in how we think and that knocked me off axis. So I started looking into the subject of how do men think. And I found some pretty disturbing shit.

There’s something going on called “Lad Culture“. lad

You’re on the internet, you can Google it but from what I understand its about men staying 23 years old forever. At 32, 48, 67, etc. they are demanding the freedom to date as many women as they can…play video games…spend their income on video games and entertainment rather than a family…and be free of adult responsibility and social pressures. This is a backlash to “Feminism” and the “Decline of the American Woman“. Maybe again, backlash is not the correct word here. Maybe byproduct would be more appropriate.

On the Other Hand (I swear, that’s what I should have named this blog), there is a movement to fight back against Metrosexuality, Homosexuality, Trysexuality and go back to being Real Men. The Promisekeepers, if you will. The Real Men are generally conservative types who want to go back to 1953 and the Good Old Days That Never Were. They want to be a hardworking hubby to a submissive housewife. They claim to be dominant Alpha Males.

Actually both camps claim to be dominant Alpha Males. The Lads measure their dominance by the ability to collect “smoking hot chicks” who will not cheat on them (getting cheated on is for Beta males), pick other men over them and fall hook, like and stinker for their inane game. While not asking for anything in return. They believe such nuggets as:

“Why a woman would try to make weaker exactly that Prince she wanted so much as companion? Well there are several reasons:

– She wants to own him exclusively. The simplest reason in the world.

-Female competition: in the deep of their hearts women know that the most Alpha of all the males is the one who never is exclusive to one woman. Already the fact that he is agreeing to be only with her is in a way “beta”. That´s why most of the women get so horny about the fantasy that their men could have sex with other women.”

(Ask any woman who is right in her head how much money you’d have to pay her to be “horny” at the thought of her man having sex with some other woman. Ask any woman who is right in her head how much you’d have to pay her to own a man. Own him outright too, title and everything…)

“It is the so-called Social Proof: that tells to them that they made a good choice! If many women want their man that means they did a good choice.

A very sure way to lose your own woman in a relationship is to make her sure that no other woman wants you!

This does not necessarily mean to cheat on her. Women like to fantasize about the idea that their man could potentially get other women, while being faithful to them. In a way, in the deeper of their psyche, they “sense” that if a man agrees to be only with them he is in a way agreeing to be a little bit “betaised”.

(Really? Has the person who wrote this never heard of the “catfight” or the word “bitch” or “Whore” or one woman threatening to scratch another one’s face off and yank every strand of hair off her head “if that bitch looks over here one more time”? The simplest analogy a man might understand is women feel the same way about another woman wanting your man as a man feels about another man wanting his liver.)

Anyway they have the deep need to make him weaker which would keep him from spreading his genes to other women.”

(No. You want him to not want to spread his genes to other women because he loves you and the family he’s made with you so much that he wants to invest his time and resources into y’all exclusively. That’s why marriage is so important to women and will always be, no matter what anybody’s mouth says.)

(The saddest thing about all this though is how far from a woman’s reality this shit is. And how many men regard this ignorant blather as some kind of Great Truth.)

The Real Man and their two-finger-thick mustaches claim to be Alphas because they are well, “real” men and thereby embody earnest masculinity. And besides, the Playboy ideal:

What kind of man is this?

He is fastidious about his appearance, his home and hisridiculous old man and some hoes possessions. He wants as much sex as possible and chooses sexual partners mostly on the basis of appearance. He is self-absorbed and doesn’t want emotional involvement or commitment. He thinks a woman would stifle him and children would be a burden.

Does this sound like many gays? It is also the masculine ideal purveyed by Playboy magazine to men since the 1950’s.

The essence of manhood is to lead and support a family. But in 1972, 3 out of 4 male college students got their ideas about masculinity from Playboy, at an incalculable price to themselves, women, children and society.


The similarity between the Playboy and homosexual ideal is no coincidence. “The Kinsey Report” (1948) shaped current mainstream attitudes to sex. It championed unfettered sexual expression and became the manifesto of the counterculture. It inspired Hugh Hefner to start Playboy in 1953.

is a construct of the Homosexuals to Destroy Families.

Most men (or at least men’s magazines) align themselves somewhere between these two extremes. Not that Henry Makow (I stan for that man- I wrote him an email about an article he’d written. Within the hour, he wrote me back with good fatherly advice. Gotta love that.) could ever be considered extreme except in the context of “extremely wise” or “extremely awesome.”

Alas… life becokons. Having laid the foundation, I will continue this post at a later date, and I absolutely promise to somehow make it relevant to the title. Cheers.


Yesterday, I was watching videos with the kids. Its a little something I do in my personal War on Terror so I can provide running commentary and battle back the forces of whoredom, the liberal agenda and the creepiness of conservative fundamentalism.

This gad-awful song comes on about some boy’s girlfriend and how she doesn’t get his jokes, how she wears short skirts while the singer wears tee shirts. And on and on until I couldn’t bear it another second and changed the channel. When I do that, the kids go “That was Taylor Swift.” shaking their heads.

Not that that excuses Kanye West.


He totally wilded out when he Rick Lazio’d that girl but her music is not faultless in this either. She should not have won anything for that. And by that I mean, nothing. Not an award, not the right to sing another song at the karaoke bar, not even a gold star for trying. But as it happens when you do some randomly aggressive shit, you totally change the focus from what you were saying to the randomly aggressive shit you did.

He of course had to apologize. Not just for the sake of his career but because somebody would have had to set fire to someone in a jealous rage to take away his Playa Hater of the Year 2009-Infinity grand nationals championship ring. So he went on the couch at Jay Leno before his scheduled performance and did that.

What nobody was expecting was for Leno to tell him he knew his deceased mother.

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And then to ask him what she would have thought of the way he’d behaved.

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Because…she’d raised him better than that. kanye crying

I’ve never heard anything about Kanye West’s father so I don’t know if he’d left the family or if he’d died or what the circumstances were that caused him not to be around. Whatever the case, Donda West was a larger than life presence in Kanye’s persona. I once saw a show of his where she was in the audience. And she knew every single word of every single on of his songs.

kanye's mom

If you’ve ever lived with a musician, you know what that means. When they are constantly making music, you have to learn to tune it out or you won’t be doing anything else all day. When someone makes beats, especially. It’s almost hypnotic because it just loops and loops. And for me anyway, until the words, effects and pauses are added in, they all sound the same.

Beats never sound the same as the finished product. So its one thing to support the music when all you hear is the finished product, when all the rapper or singer has to do is add the hooks and verses. Its a whole other when you’ve been hearing tink, tink, tink….booom, tink…tink,boom,booom,tink,duuuuhhh….tink, bahh, booom,tink,duuuuhhh…tink, boom,duhh…tink, boom…tink,tink,tink… for nine hours.

And it’s definitely one thing to support Grammy Award Winning Platinum Recording Artist Kanye West and a whole other to love the music Kanye “be makin’ in the basement”. His mom, despite her frustration, worry and (I’m sure) anger at him for dropping out, “wasting his potential” and eschewing the beaten path to pursue music when the odds of success in it are at best infinitesimal, loved the music Kanye be makin’ in the basement.

Since her death, He’s been surrounding himself with people who support Grammy Award Winning Platinum Recording Artist Kanye West. It’s been all Hollywood, All the Time with him for a minute now and the worst of it has been his girlfriend, (the blond dyke who’ll do anything for the limelight?)

Amber Rose:

Kanye's downfall

I don’t know the girl to say any of this definitively but she doesn’t seem to have his best interest at heart or any interest really except to have her picture all over the media everyday. Everyday. Every single day. Disliking her is “hating” but she irks me for no other reason then that she hasn’t done anything to be famous than have sex with Kanye West. And that I can’t help but feeling like she wouldn’t be around if his mom still were. Or that if she were around, she’d be just that: around. And not front and center like what he’s famous for, rather than his music.


On Leno, Kanye said he’s going to take a break. He hasn’t dealt with his mom’s death or of his feelings of guilt about it:

Kanye West is still getting over the horrific loss of his mother and best friend Donda West, and now he’s pondering his role in her death last year.

In an interview with, West says that he feels his celebrity lifestyle possibly contributed to the demise of the 58-year-old. “I feel like I moved to California, then my mom moved to California, and she did stuff she wouldn’t have done if we’d stayed in Chicago,” he said. “If I’d never made it in the music business, it never would’ve happened… Now I’d rather talk it through than commit suicide. I’m super devastated.”

On November 10, Donda West, a former professor and author, died at the Centinela Freeman hospital in California due to complications from plastic surgery.”


Granted, no, his mom would not have wanted him blaming himself but I’m sure she would have welcomed him taking the time for introspection. He needs to take a break. It’s a good idea. It’s something we all need sometimes.

Everybody (in the industry) laughed at Dave Chappelle when he did it but he said on Inside the Actor’s Studio, it saved his sanity. We all need to periodically re-evaluate, recharge and renew. Even you.

I know they get you feeling like you gots to something real crazy so they can be real clear but you don’t throw your baby at the nigga, girl…

“MEMPHIS, TN – Memphis police have charged a woman, who is accused of throwing her baby on the ground during an argument with the two-month-old’s father.

According to a police affidavit, Verriardica Odom has been charged with Aggravated Assault and Reckless Endangerment in the incident that happened on Wednesday, September 9, 2009.

Girl who threw her babyThe police document states Darobert Jones, the baby’s father, told police Odom went to his girlfriend’s house and started beating on the front door until the glass broke. He says when his girlfriend opened the door, Odom pushed her way into the home. According to Jones, Odom grabbed, bit, scratched and choked him before pulling him out of the house — while only wearing his boxers — and forced him into her car. Jones told the officers that he jumped out of the car in the area of Evergreen and ran.

According to the affidavit, Odom then went to her house and picked up her two-month-old daughter before returning to Jones’ girlfriend’s home. Once there, Jones says Odom got out of the car, took the baby out of the car seat and threw her at him while saying, “You go, the baby goes!”

Jones said in a stat
ement to police that he grabbed his daughter and got into a car with his girlfriend and drove away. He says every time they would stop at a light or stop sign, Odom would ram the car. Odom, Jones says, would then get out of her car and start fighting with the girlfriend each time they stopped.

Police say Odom had her three other children in the car during the incident.


And you know what? To my credit as a woman, I still wanna know why she got a black eye if it was all so much just her fault?

I never watched the show “In the House”. Ever. Not once. So it took me a while to remember who Maia Campbell was. But she was so fresh faced, pretty and around the way-ish, it only took one picture of the old her to jog my memory.







How she even came up is a Mediatakeout (Fred is the devil. I went to Brooklyn Tech with him, I know.) reader put her on blast as a meth head and bum.



And then as a prostitute and crack head.


And the latest is this poor girl has three kids and she’s more fucked up in the game than ever because she’s schizophrenic and won’t take her medication. I can’t comment. Like nothing I could say would matter but damn, I feel for her.

I know – it’s a Brave New World and there are no boundaries. I know this. I am reminded of it constantly.


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When Metrosexual became the new sexual, I didn’t really understand the difference between it and say… homosexual, but it didn’t really bother me for the same reason I don’t really care one way or another about gay marriage. I’m not gay.

And besides, I live to laugh, and if nothing else, boy is that shit funny. And by funny I don’t mean “That’s funny. I just had my keys…” or “Isn’t it funny how day in, day out nothing ever changes, but then when you look back, everything is different. …”

I mean funny like this:


And this:


And this:


And of course this:


As well as this:


And Also this:


But The Forces of Evil never rest and Fuckery knows no holidays and slowly this:

became this:


As well as this:


And most profoundly this:


And let’s not forget this…

common in extramedium shirt

Now. I’m as tolerant and open-minded as anybody else. I am. I’m just more discerning about it. And I was perfectly willing to remain my tolerant and open-minded self when two things happened: Dudes started saying flagrantly gay shit and putting “No homo” behind it like it somehow redeemed them and this:

male-tightsbecame this:


which became this:


at the same time that this:

skinny jeans

found itself translated into this:


The translation is what has driven me to this post. I was a horrendous and rebellious kid. I became an even worse teenager so I totally understand the teenage rebellion thing. My mother was an ardent feminist and liberal. So, naturally, as a teen I became a Muslim and adopted oppressive Conservative fundamentalist views. Perot ’92.

It was a matter of time and of course, I grew out of it. But the shit I put my mother through in that time turned her hair gray. And now I find myself with two teenagers. 14 and 15 year olds in this Brave New World. 14 and 15 year olds that listen to Rap and follow the trends.

And the trends aren’t just making it acceptable to dress like a wuss:


It’s making it okay to live like one too. It’s leading to shit like this:

SMH & Gay: Yung Berg Talks About Getting Slapped Like a Ho by Maino


Rapper Young Berg got the shit slapped out of him by another man at a restaurant in LA. The next day, he called the dude that slapped him, Maino, apologized for “tripping” and now doesn’t understand why people keep talking about it and won’t just let the whole thing blow away.

For the record, I am not one of those people who feel like you should kill yourself if you lose a fight. But okay, let’s say he was overwhelmed by Maino’s superior strength and he couldn’t retaliate because the slap knocked him breathless. Why in the world though would his rationale for being the one apologizing after getting slapped the fuck up be that Maino is a “street dude” and he’s a “young and sexy” dude? Why?

Maybe because Yung Berg (who also calls dark skinned women “Black butts” and is in his own words racist against them) dresses like this:


And the dude that slapped his ass like the bitch he is, said this:

maino quote

Methinks I see a correlation…

Required Reading:

Goodbye, Metrosexuals: Manly Men…Are Making a Comeback

No Tight Clothes Is a Movement

Hip Hop is Gay?

Thanks for visiting. Let me know what’s on your mind…peace

I’ll be the first person to admit Obama has been a disappointment. By constantly trying to please everyone, he’s not pleasing anyone and he doesn’t stand for anything.

Granted, I understand what he’s up against. But…you have to wonder who the hell is advising him sometimes and what his endgame is when the Right seems to be hellbent on getting him killed by playing on fears of him destroying America, conspiring to end capitalism because he’s really a Socialist, ruthlessly going after his enemies by curbing free speech when he shouldn’t even be President because goddammit, he’s from Kenya!


And playing on the fears of the most heavily armed, ignorant and violent people in the country, at that.

The same people Sarah Palin codenamed The Real Americans, who feel that this fight is not only personal, it’s for the sake of the future of the United States of America.cincinnati-tea-party

In my honest opinion, all of this is merely Republican political strategy to get back into power in 2010 and 2012. All the teabagging, gun ban scares, crocodile tears because CEOs can’t take bailout money and redistribute it as “bonuses” to all their friends, and even the Death Panels were disengenuous but harmless political shenanigans. I didn’t understand the breadth and scope of White Rage Against the Obama Thugocracy until I watched Glenn Beck tonight on Fox.

glenn_beck_1210 I don’t know Glenn Beck’s bio. If you’re curious, you’re on the internet and therefore free to Google him and find out, but the few times I saw his show (on CNN, I think), he looked so full-of-shit facially I couldn’t bear to watch a whole show. But tonight, I watched it and boy am I glad I did. I think I was witness to history.

Glenn Beck is having a series of show this week called “Reasonable Questions For Unreasonable Times” or somesuch. All of these questions are directed to Obama.

These questions are urgent. They are crucial to the future of this Democratic Republic and literally mean the difference between life and death for America.

Today, the reasonable questions for unreasonable times revolved around Obama’s Socialist/Communist/Marxist ties. With charts and diagrams and a flipping blackboard, he “showed” links between Obama and people who allegedly hate capitalism and America. There were three pages of Questions, but the main question was “Is it alright that Communists have the president’s ear?” And mark my words- these inanely passive aggressive accusations with a question mark behind them are going to play a role in someone trying to Right What Is Wrong. Glenn Beck is taking advantage of the American value of Free Speech to score cheap political points by planting seeds for someone else to sow.

And really, there’s nothing anyone can do about it. Any attempt to censor him is playing right into his hands: “beckfullofshtThey’re trying to silence me because I’m telling the truth!”

Any attempt to counter his points will involve repeating and therefore reinforcing them.

And any attempt to ignore him just gives it more time to forment.

My problem with his questions is not just that they are time-wasters that the President would look like an ass stooping to dignify but that when his guy, George W. Bush was in office, NOBODY was asking these types of questions because everybody knew better. Nobody wanted to get Dixie Chicked. Every journalist, media type and infotainer knew not to cross the line because George W. Bush made it known “You are either with us…or the terrorists.” There were no bystanders in the Bush Era.

You protested in a “Free Speech Zone“:


and if you questioned anything- policies, the Wars, facts on the ground, whatever…you got lied to, shut down or ignored.

And not Glenn Beck, Lou Dobbs or any of the other Bravehearts “asking the tough questions” now was saying s**t.

But… Under the Obama Thugocracy, a media figure hosting what’s supposed to be an actual news show can not only accuse the President of treason and subterfuge, but people worried about losing their freedoms can bring heavy artillery to a venue where the President is…without consequence.

aswithrifleThis could not have happened- no way, no how- during the Bush Presidency. Whether or not that man was legally in possession of that weapon, he would have had to use it and get shot or get shot with it under his arm  or get shot trying to take it out of his car, his choice. But he would have got shot if he would have dared pull that shit 1/21/2001-1/20/2009.

People are really playing right now. Really.

From Glenn Beck’s website, here are the Reasonable Questions:

Am I hateful if I ask:

– Who is “surrounding” the President in the White House?

– Do any of the President’s advisers have criminal records?

– Are the President’s advisers working to better the country or their own ideals?

– Who are the anti-capitalists in Washington?

– What roles do they have in crafting bills?

– What was “STORM”? What happened to the founders, where are they now?

– What qualifications must one have to be a Presidential adviser?

– What is the difference between a community organizer and a community activist?

– Do the czars have power?

– Should a communist have the ear of the President of the United States?

– What role did the Apollo Alliance play in crafting bills?

– Does the President know the co-founder of the Weather Underground is a board member of the Apollo Alliance?

– How many people in the administration are connected to the movement for a democratic society?

– What role does George Soros play… CONSTITUTIONALLY?

– Our unfunded liability for Social Security, Medicare and Medicaid is close to $100 trillion. Is there any way to pay for these programs without bankrupting America?

– We are in so much debt, why spend more borrowed money on cap-and-trade and healthcare programs before we stop the flow of red-ink?

– The stimulus package funneled billions of dollars to ACORN. How does giving billions of dollars to ACORN stimulate the economy?

– If it was so important for congress to pass the stimulus bill before they even had time to read it why has only a fraction of the stimulus money been spent 6 months later?

– Bush said he had to abandon free market principles in order to save them, how exactly does that work?

– Why won’t members of Congress read the bills before they vote on them?

– Why are citizens mocked and laughed at when they ask their congressman to read the bills before they vote on them?

– Was the cash-for-clunkers program meant to save the earth or the economy? Did it accomplish either?

– How did Van Jones, a self-proclaimed communist become a special advisor to the president?

– Did President Obama know of Van Jones’ radical political beliefs when he named him special advisor?

– The Apollo Alliance claimed credit for writing the stimulus bill—why was this group allowed to write any portion of this bill?

– If politicians aren’t writing the bills and aren’t reading the bills, do they have any idea what these 1000 page plus bills actually impose on the American people?

– If the ‘public option’ health care plan is so good why won’t politicians agree to have that as their plan?

– If town hall meetings are intended for the politicians to learn what’s on our mind—why do they spend so much time talking instead of listening?

– Politicians are refusing to attend town hall meetings complaining, without evidence, that they are scripted. Does that mean we shouldn’t come out and vote for you since every campaign stop, baby kiss and speech you give is scripted?

– Why would you want to overwhelm the system?

– Is using the economic crises to rush legislation through congress what Rahm Emanuel meant when he talked about “not letting a crises go to waste”?

– What are the czars paid? What is the budget for their staffs/offices?